His focus

This is his whole life it comes down to this for him. It what keep him going through school and through life. It helps describe him and explains why he acts the way he does it has been his driving force in life.

                I decided to use this picture for a few reasons other than I like the picture and thought that it looked cool. The picture is completely blurred out except for me. This is to symbolize that almost everything in my life is focused around me and wrestling. With almost every choice I make how it might affect my wrestling is the question in the back of my mind. Wrestling has really helped shape me as a person. I feel the picture and the flash fiction build off each other it helps you get a better understanding of why I chose the picture.  

Personality is made up of many different aspects of your life. Many of the experiences in your life help shape the person you are and why you may act the way you do. That’s why I feel like you can change yourself and your personality.

                I think many different things play a role in making up your identity such as experiences you had growing up how we were raised, and different activities interest we are involved in as kids. For me the biggest interest I had was in wrestling this sport had really shaped a lot of aspects in my life. The sport has made me not only physically but mentally stronger. One thing the sport has taught me though is to never just judge someone’s ability based on the way they look. I have wrestled kids who did not look very good but were great wrestlers and vice versa. In the ted talk with Verna Meyers she says, “Biases are stories we make up about people before we even know who they are”. Before wrestling someone you might think that he looks like he is good or better than you and lose the match before you even start. Wrestling has taught me you need to treat everyone as just another person and I think that aspect has carried over in to my everyday interactions with people.

                How much control we have in shaping our identities or personalities is a question of opinion. I personally feel as if it’s something in life in some aspects we do have some control over. For example, we can’t control how a person acts towards you and how you feel about your interactions but you can control how you are going to respond to this and how it is going to affect you. This person’s actions might even affect you very deeply but you can choose weather or not its going to affect you as a person or if you’re going to take control of yourself and respond the best way you possibly can. But in the instance of the transgender kids from the documentary growing up trans they did not have any control over why they felt uncomfortable in the body they were born in. But they were in control of what they wanted to do about how they felt. This is something I think they can not change because most of the kids would choose to not have to go through all the things, they must just to be themselves if they didn’t have to. Feelings are something that just happen and you can’t really control them the thing you can control is how your going to react or respond to these feelings and I think this makes up a big part of who we are as individuals